HOW TO GET OVER A BREAK UP
Although there’s sadly no magic wand to wave to make all the heartache from a breakup disappear overnight (how we WISH), break-ups happen to all of us at some point. We feel like we’ll never heal, never be ourselves again, never love again, but thankfully it passes with time and support. Breaking up is the absolute worst to put it extreeeeemely lightly. It’s not going to be easy, but with some support from friends and family and a lot of self love, self care, and most importantly, time, it’ll get easier – trust us. We know it might feel like your heart is breaking and the tears will never end, but it will! Read on for some heartbreak remedies and remember to have some chocolate ice cream on hand!
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU.
This is extremely helpful to healing because when you’re alone, your mind starts to think too much, and the tears start to flow. Try to limit time spent alone to a minimum to avoid slipping back into sad thoughts and feelings. Friends can get you out of your own headspace and support you in ways you never even thought you’d need – like a reminder to eat, shower, and get out of bed. Connect with friends, pour your heart out – they love you and want to be there for you!
REPLACE ANY PICTURES AND ITEMS YOU HAVE WITH, OF, OR FROM THEM.
Seeing their face or a gift from them is only going to keep your hurting and attached. To make things easier, try replacing gifts with something similar. Like, if they got you a necklace for a gift that you cherished and can’t stand the thought of not wearing, replace it with another necklace. This way you’ll still have that comfort, but it will have a good memory attached to it instead of a memory of them.
REPLACE MEMORIES WITH THEM WITH NEW HAPPY EXPERIENCES.
Going to your usual spots after a breakup when that place just has their name lit up in flashing lights all over it in your memory can set off all kinds of emotions. Don’t avoid the places you love though because of the memories of that person. It’s now an opportunity for you to reclaim that space and have new happy memories attached to it. Try going with new people and you’ll realize that it’s not as bad as you probably thought it would be.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL.
This is a big one. It’s important that you take the time to heal, cry, and grieve the loss of a relationship. It’s okay to not be okay. All of the love that you put onto one person you can now shift onto yourself. Try to do your favorite things with friends and when solo. Reconnect with yourself and what you love. Practice self-care as much as you need and don’t ever ever feel bad about expressing how you feel to friends and admitting that you’re not okay. It’ll take time to bounce back, but in the meantime, remember to love yourself, and that means allowing yourself the space to heal.
DON’T JUMP INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY.
After having someone that had a huge space in your life suddenly gone, it can feel natural to want to fill that emptiness with another person. It might seem like anyone will do when you’re lonely. But don’t (we repeat: DON’T) lower your standards and jump to someone new while you’re still healing. This is a huge mistake for sooo many reasons but will lead to more heartbreak and start the whole nasty cycle all over again. Our advice is to focus on yourself until you feel ready to fully put yourself out there without the hangups of an ex. If the thought of their name still causes you any kind of deep emotional pain or sadness, you’re not ready.
KEEP MUSIC, MUSIC, SHOWS, AND LIFE LIGHT AND HAPPY.
Laughing and smiling can seriously get you out of some post-breakup sadness so surrender to it. Put on your favorite comedies, listen to cheesy 90s pop, watch YouTube videos of puppies – whatever you’ve gotta do to put that beaming smile back on your face. If you’re keeping your life full of happy things, it’s going to be sooo much easier to keep that happiness going and fight off the sadness.